Let's talk about HEALING. First off, can we put the measuring sticks away? Why do we judge ourselves so much? Why is it so hard to just flow.. If you're anything like me, I can be very results focused. When I start something, I want to see changes immediately. This has actually been a hindrance. Starting and stopping so many projects before I even gave them a chance to blossom. I used to go to the gym for a week, and think I would see my six pack.
I had to learn patience.
When it came to this journey of self love, healing, breaking curses, and changing my mindset, I guess I thought it was a one way road, and once I started on the path, it would all be downhill. I won't lie, some days feel like ok I got this, I've arrived FINALLY, and certain things that used to trigger me, don't anymore. Then out of nowhere the Universe throws me a curve ball and reminds me that there are levels to this thing called life, and healing is truly a "journey", sometimes smooth, sometimes bumpy, sometimes there are traffic jams, and most times the road ahead isn't clear. The biggest lesson has been learning to give myself grace, rather than judgement. Looking at myself as a friend, rather than a competitor. Accepting my good days, along with the lows.
We are conditioned to compare ourselves and beat ourselves up for not having it all together. When you think about it, most of us are having to learn as we go, and as we grow. We weren't given a tool book, so the best thing we can do is LOVE ourselves through it all. Not WHEN or IF you reach that ideal place in your mind, but right now, because healing may be a lifelong journey. Undoing trauma, is no easy task, and it's not for the weak.
I just want to send love and light to all of you, and a reminder that there will be ups and downs, highs and lows, and sometimes it will feel like you're running in place, or even going backwards. Keep putting in the work. Be patient with yourself. Remember to love yourself and give your self credit for all the work you're doing. The fact that you are here means you're on the right path. You are not alone, and healing isn't some walk in the park, and it doesn't always feel good. You will laugh, you will cry, you will feel lost, you will feel alone. But YOU were chosen for this. You got this... We Got This!
Much Love Family.